If there is one thing I have learned over the years of working with families, it is that parents are among the most selfless beings on this planet. Something in us rearranges itself when a child enters our lives. We carry this instinct deep in our bones. Even animals do. This spring, I was standing in my garden completely lost in thought when a tiny five ounce bird came flying straight at me. She had built a nest in the bushes and in her mind I was a threat to her eggs. The a

If you have been parenting a teenager for any length of time, you know how much energy goes into grades, test scores, and college preparation. Yet every time I speak with parents who work in demanding professional environments, one truth becomes impossible to ignore. Communication skills are more important for teens than almost anything else they learn. Whenever I meet parents who lead teams or make hiring decisions, I always ask them what skill gaps they see most often in th

Last week during parent conferences, one mom leaned in and asked, “So, Alpana… how important is this high school pathway thing?” It made me smile because she wasn’t the first to ask. By the end of the week, five other parents had brought up the exact same question, some with genuine worry, others with a laugh that said, please tell me this isn’t as serious as it sounds. Apparently, the entire county had been swept up in what I can only call Pathway Panic 2025. Everyone had j

The Triple Pressure Teens Face Today Let’s face it, our teens are living lives that we could never have imagined at their age. The world they are growing up in demands more, moves faster, and rarely pauses for breath. 1: The Rigor of High School Let’s start with academics. The rigor today is unreal.AP-level courses were designed for college students, not for 14-year-olds who are still figuring out who they are and how to balance homework with a life. Yet many of them are alre

This week, I had the honor of reconnecting with Dr. Gary Davison, the founding (Retd.) principal of Lambert High School here in Georgia. In our conversation, he said something that has stayed with me: “Parents today need to raise adults of tomorrow, not kids for today.” It was such a simple line—but it hit me like a truth bomb. Because let’s be honest, it’s hard. We live in a world of deadlines, group chats, and Amazon Prime—everything is instant. And it’s easy to fall into

It’s 6:30 a.m. The alarm goes off. Your teen groans, fumbles for the phone, and hits snooze. Nine minutes later, it happens again. Then again. You call out, “Time to get up!” but you already know what’s coming — the muffled “In five minutes!” that somehow stretches into fifteen. Sound familiar? It’s not laziness. It’s habit. And buried inside that small act of “just five more minutes” is something much bigger than we realize. Because every time we hit snooze, we’re rehears

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A parenting reflection on effort, pressure, and quiet resilience When you're parenting teens through failure—and I mean a real,...

A thoughtful guide for students walking into high school for the first time The jump to 9th grade is more than just a change in buildings...

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"## Teaching Teens to Prioritize: A Path to Success Right now, your teen is probably sleeping in, wearing the same hoodie for three days,...

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