How To Foster Leadership Skills At Home
Updated: Jul 3
As parents, our ultimate aspiration is to guide our children into successful, fulfilling lives. We enroll them in tutoring classes, engage them in sports, and introduce them to arts and crafts, all in an effort to equip them with the hard skills necessary for their future. But have we ever paused to ask if we're focusing on the right things?
Research from Harvard University, the Carnegie Foundation, and Stanford Research Center found that 85% of career success comes from having well-developed soft skills and people skills. Hard skills, including technical skills and knowledge, only make up 15% of career success.
Ironically, while there are myriad avenues to develop technical skills, few exist that nurture people skills in children. I firmly believe that people skills do not magically mature with age. They require steady, positive reinforcement to become ingrained in our essence. It's these skills that distinguish the leaders of tomorrow.
Harnessing the Power of Human Connection
People are all around us. During the summer holidays, whether you are planning a getaway or a staycation, you are likely to be surrounded by family and friends. Each of these individuals has their own story.
Help your kids to get interested in these stories. Encourage them to strike up a conversation and ask people a little more about themselves. As simple as this may seem, it takes genuine interest to initiate this kind of conversation and a lot of empathy to listen without judgement. In this fast-paced world of constant distractions, this is a high ask of any child. Yet, the payoff is a long-lasting, authentic connection that outweighs any challenge.
The Rose Bush Technique
Wondering how to get started? Here's a simple, yet powerful technique - ask about their "Rose Bush" since you last met. This metaphorical inquiry prompts them to reflect on a Rose, Thorn, and Bud they might have experienced:
Rose: A highlight, success, small win, or something positive that happened.
Thorn: A challenge they experienced or are experiencing.
Bud: Something they are looking forward to.
A great way to familiarize children with this concept is to introduce it at your own dinner time where everybody takes turns to share their “rose bush” of the day. You will be surprised to learn what our children perceive as challenges and wins in the most authentic way.
Seemingly a simple activity, this is a powerful tool that offers insights into people's lives. When individuals feel truly heard, they begin to trust, and trust is the bedrock of authentic connections – the ultimate manifestation of having people skills.
So, let's start equipping our children with the tools they need for their future success - not just with technical proficiency but with the essential art of understanding and relating to people. After all, our children are the leaders of tomorrow, and it's up to us to nurture the skills they need to lead effectively.
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